The nature of the human self is not to accept blame or responsibility. Hence, an immature person accuses others when experiencing difficulties, hardship or suffering. The evolved person blames himself, however, for ignorance and lack of wisdom and takes responsibility for what has gone wrong. A difficulty is regarded as a good lesson. Constrictions can lead to new knowledge and openings. The habit of self-pity and psychological suffering is a great handicap in one’s life. In order to get out of the case of reinforcing suffering, constant watchfulness of the self’s tendency to justify itself whilst blaming others is required.
By Shaykh Fadhlalla Haeri from the book “Witnessing Perfection”